Make New Friends…& Track Down The Old Ones Using Social Networking

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2014 was a terrible year for a lot of people I care about. Four close friends were diagnosed with cancer. One of them lost her fight with it.

My big lesson of 2014: Friendship is precious, but it’s also finite.

My New Year’s Resolution for 2015 is to be a better friend. I will find more ways to spend time with the people I love, preferably face-to-face.

Watching my friends go through the brutal and boring process of estate planning showed me, yet again, that ownership is a pain in the ass. As one of my friends put it, “I’m going to survive this just so I don’t have to deal with parcelling out the china collection.”

How do I want to spend the last month of my life? Not making a spreadsheet of who inherits what.

Currently I spend at least one hour every day cleaning and curating my stuff. Emptying the cat box. Sweeping the floor. Doing the laundry. That’s 365 hours every year that I spend doing housework. I hate housework. In an effort to make more time for my friends from here on out, I am going to spend 365 hours this year downsizing my belongings to 1000 items.

(Yes, 1000 belongings is totally arbitrary).

If I make this goal, by the start of 2016, I will only have to spend 20 minutes a day futzing with my stuff (because I will have so little to dust) and I will have 243 extra hours that I can spend hanging out with friends.

Being a better friend also means tracking down old buddies. Since I think that Facebook is the devil, this task is slightly harder than it should be. Also, my computer looks like it belongs to a crazy person. My desktop is a mess. When I opened up my google contacts for the first time ever last Monday, I discovered that I have over 13,000 contacts. I’m so popular! Then I discovered that I have 13 different emails addresses…for myself…nine of them defunct.

I’m not the social gadfly that I imagine, just wildly unorganized.

My secondary goal for the year will be decluttering my digital life. I feel like I spend a lot of my time lost in The Matrix, only messier. Less time wasted looking for lost documents on the computer means more time looking for lost friends on the computer.

One Comment

  1. Wendell Linder
    Posted April 17, 2015 at 11:25 am | Permalink

    This was a great article. Thank you for the awareness and I hope we can become friends.

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