Make New Friends…& Track Down The Old Ones Using Social Networking
2014 was a terrible year for a lot of people I care about. Four close friends were diagnosed with cancer. One of them lost her fight with it.
My big lesson of 2014: Friendship is precious, but it’s also finite.
My New Year’s Resolution for 2015 is to be a better friend. I will find more ways to spend time with the people I love, preferably face-to-face.
Watching my friends go through the brutal and boring process of estate planning showed me, yet again, that ownership is a pain in the ass. As one of my friends put it, “I’m going to survive this just so I don’t have to deal with parcelling out the china collection.”
How do I want to spend the last month of my life? Not making a spreadsheet of who inherits what.
Currently I spend at least one hour every day cleaning and curating my stuff. Emptying the cat box. Sweeping the floor. Doing the laundry. That’s 365 hours every year that I spend doing housework. I hate housework. In an effort to make more time for my friends from here on out, I am going to spend 365 hours this year downsizing my belongings to 1000 items.
(Yes, 1000 belongings is totally arbitrary).
If I make this goal, by the start of 2016, I will only have to spend 20 minutes a day futzing with my stuff (because I will have so little to dust) and I will have 243 extra hours that I can spend hanging out with friends.
Being a better friend also means tracking down old buddies. Since I think that Facebook is the devil, this task is slightly harder than it should be. Also, my computer looks like it belongs to a crazy person. My desktop is a mess. When I opened up my google contacts for the first time ever last Monday, I discovered that I have over 13,000 contacts. I’m so popular! Then I discovered that I have 13 different emails addresses…for myself…nine of them defunct.
I’m not the social gadfly that I imagine, just wildly unorganized.
My secondary goal for the year will be decluttering my digital life. I feel like I spend a lot of my time lost in The Matrix, only messier. Less time wasted looking for lost documents on the computer means more time looking for lost friends on the computer.